Guests that don’t approve of your wedding are like pink elephants in the room, everyone knows they are there and see how awkward their presence is but still choose to not say anything. These types of wedding guests can really put a damper on your special day. Whether it’s an ex-girlfriend, angry friend, or perfect stranger giving you the evil eye, it’s your responsibility to take the situation head-on BEFORE your wedding. Weddings are supposed to feel romantic not awkward, so follow these steps on How to handle that pink elephant at your wedding.
#1 Do everything you can to prevent the person from attending – The bottom line is that it is your wedding day and you’ll definitely have more to worry about then a disgruntled guest. Talk to whoever knows the elephant and let them know that you don’t want them to attend if there are ill feelings between the both of you. We understand that conflicts are sometimes more complicated then a simple turn of the head, so you use your best judgment. Are you arguing with this person but really wished you weren’t? Could you really care less if they attended your wedding or not? Do you need this person to attend your wedding for some reason? These are some questions that can help you get to the bottom of your intentions. Again, if you plan to work it out with this guest then move on to the next step. If not, be straight forward and simply let them know they aren’t invited.
#2 Contact them and try to talk it out - The first step to any future resolution is open communication. If you really want to make amends with your pink elephant then make the first move and give them a call. The severity of an argument can differ, but the truth is that if this argument was meant to be solved before your wedding it would have already happened, right? Unfortunately, if you want to speed up the resolution, it’s your responsibility to take the first step no matter how much damage it may cause your ego.
#3 Offer a day of peace - If a permanent resolution wont work, then the next best option is put a band – aid on the problem. Even if you and your pink elephant cant come to an agreement, you can still ask for “one day of peace.” This means that for your wedding day you and your elephant will put all your disagreements aside and act like all is well. Human nature has shown us that even during times of anger we still posses a sense of sympathy for one another. Invoke your elephant’s sense of sympathy and politely ask that they don’t cause a scene at your wedding. You’ll be surprised how well some people will comply with this request. Who knows, maybe your “one day of peace” will be a stepping stone to a future resolution!
#4 Kill them with kindness and don’t pay them any mind - If you’ve tried everything above and have had no luck, then suck it in girl it’s going to be a long night. Just remember that pink elephants stand alone because nobody wants to participate on anything negative at a wedding. Likewise, don’t feed your elephant by paying them attention. If your guests notice that you aren’t effected by your pink elephant’s actions, they too will be less inclined to feel awkward. Here are other tricks to make your pink elephant easier to forget:
- Prepare your wedding seating arrangements and set them far from you at your ceremony and reception
- Ignore their negative comments and only respond to them if they say nice things
- Inform your photographer or videographer of your pink elephant so they won’t unexpectedly ask you to pose with him or her.
- Smile and Laugh – There is no better cure for negativity then a crowd of happy people.
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